My Story
For a long time, I didn’t understand my anger.
I grew up in a home where anger was loud, unpredictable, and often frightening. Arguments were constant. There were threats, verbal abuse, and physical violence. As a child, I felt powerless, unsafe and often scared, and I didn’t know how to make sense of any of it. I was also very, very angry.
So I did what many people do. I buried it.
But those feelings didn’t disappear.
They turned inward.
I learned to stay quiet.
To keep the peace.
To push my feelings down so I didn’t make things worse.
Over time, that showed up as depression, self-doubt, and a constant sense that something wasn’t quite right — even when everything looked fine on the outside.
As I got older, I became very good at masking.
I didn’t know I was autistic at the time, but I knew I felt different. I tried to fit in, to get things “right,” to be accepted. Some days my mind felt overwhelmed and scrambled, and I struggled to keep going in environments that didn’t feel safe or sustainable.
Eventually, I realised I couldn’t keep forcing myself into spaces that didn’t work for me.
The turning point
So I started creating my own.
But the real shift didn’t come from business.
It came from understanding something I had missed for years. Anger wasn’t the problem. It was what happened when anger wasn’t understood.
Because when anger is ignored or suppressed, it doesn’t disappear.
It shows up in other ways.
In overthinking.
In people-pleasing.
In holding back in conversations.
In saying less than you mean — and replaying it later.
That realisation changed everything.
It shaped the work I do today.
For over 20 years, I’ve supported people — from young people in schools to leaders in organisations — to understand what’s really going on underneath their emotional responses.
Through that work, and my doctoral research, I developed Anger-Informed Coaching — a reflective approach that helps people move from reacting or shutting down… to responding with clarity, confidence, and self-trust.
Because most people I work with don’t think they have an anger problem.
They think they:
need more confidence
need to stop overthinking
need to communicate better
But underneath it…there’s usually something that hasn’t been listened to properly.
And when that changes…Everything else starts to shift.
If this feels familiar, you don’t have to stay stuck in it.
Explore how to say what you need to say — with clarity and confidence
The work behind the work
Anger-Informed Coaching grew from years of practice, lived experience, and academic research.
I began teaching anger management in schools more than two decades ago, supporting young people who were struggling to understand and express their emotions.
Over time, I noticed something important.
Anger itself was rarely the real problem.
More often, the problem was that people had never been shown how to understand or express it in a healthy way.
This insight eventually led me to develop Anger-Informed Coaching, a reflective coaching framework that helps individuals identify hidden anger, release it constructively, and communicate with clarity and courage.
Alongside my coaching practice, I completed doctoral research exploring teachers’ experiences of anger and emotional wellbeing, deepening my understanding of how anger is experienced, suppressed, and expressed within professional environments.
My approach
I don’t believe anger needs to be controlled, eliminated, or hidden. I believe it needs to be understood.
When approached with curiosity and self-awareness, anger can become a powerful source of insight.
It can show us:
where our boundaries have been crossed
what matters deeply to us
where we have been silencing ourselves
where change is needed
When people learn to work with anger in this way, something shifts.
They stop people-pleasing.
They speak more honestly.
They make clearer decisions.
They lead and relate to others with greater confidence.
I call this positive anger — the conscious use of anger as a force for clarity, courage, and connection.
A little more about me
Over the years I’ve delivered thousands of coaching sessions, working with individuals who want to communicate more clearly, lead with confidence, and stop abandoning themselves to keep the peace.
My work combines:
lived experience
coaching practice
academic research
and a deep belief that emotional honesty can transform relationships and leadership.
I care deeply about helping people reconnect with their voice, their boundaries, and their sense of purpose.
Because when people learn to understand their anger rather than suppress it, they often rediscover something else as well: their courage.
By integrating research, lived experience, and reflective coaching practice, I support people to move out of survival mode and into a steadier, more self-trusting way of leading, relating, and living.
This mission also lives in my book, A Letter to My Anger.
It’s an invitation to turn toward the parts of yourself you were taught to suppress — to listen to anger as a meaningful signal rather than a problem to fix.
If you’re here
You might be someone who:
struggles to speak up without feeling guilty
carries the emotional weight of others
wants to communicate more clearly and confidently
feels tired of suppressing what you really think or feel
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And it’s something we can work on together.
