Feeling stuck, second-guessing yourself, or carrying more than is yours to hold?
You don’t need fixing.
And you don’t need more strategies thrown at you.
What you need is space to slow things down — and hear yourself clearly again.
I offer a grounded, reflective coaching space where you can make sense of what’s really going on, untangle what’s been weighing on you, and reconnect with your own clarity and inner authority.
Who this is for
This work is for people who are:
capable, thoughtful, and emotionally aware
tired of overthinking and second-guessing themselves
stuck in overthinking and decisions that feel heavier than they should
carrying guilt, pressure, or responsibility that feels heavy
holding back or softening themselves in conversations
sensing something inside them wants to be heard, not overridden
You don’t need to be in a crisis. You don’t need to arrive with the “right” problem. Just a sense that something in you needs space, and honesty.
What changes for people
After working together, people often find they:
feel clearer about what’s actually going on
stop looping in the same thoughts and decisions
feel steadier in how they respond, especially in difficult conversations
hold boundaries with less guilt
trust their own perspective more
Not because life suddenly becomes easy — but because they’re no longer at war with their own inner signals.
My work helps you move from reacting or shutting down to responding with confidence, self-trust, and emotional clarity.
How the sessions work
Sessions are conversational, reflective, and led by what matters most to you.
We slow things down and explore what’s underneath the thoughts, reactions, or patterns you’re experiencing, so you can understand them, rather than push through or ignore them.
There’s no pressure to perform, explain yourself perfectly, or arrive with everything figured out.
You don’t need to prepare anything. You just need to show up honestly.
Ways To Work With Me
1:1 Coaching
A reflective space to untangle overthinking, emotional pressure, difficult conversations, and self-doubt - so you can move forward assertively.
Training & Speaking
Practical sessions that help teams navigate pressure, overthinking, and difficult conversations with more clarity and confidence.
Self-led Workshop
Learn at your own pace and start understanding what’s really driving your overthinking, hesitation, or emotional pressure.
What clients often experience
My professional background
I bring together coaching psychology, positive psychology, and anger-informed work to support people in building clarity, confidence, and self-trust.
Qualifications and Experience include:
PhD Psychological Perspectives of Anger
MSc Applied Positive Psychology & Coaching Psychology
Accredited Anger Management Instructor
BPS Registered Test User
Training in coaching, counselling, and stress management
Creator of Anger-Informed Coaching (AIC)
Over 20 years coaching experience
Background in education, psychology, and leadership development
Frequently Asked Questions
Most people I work with don’t.
They come to me saying they want to be more confident… or stop overthinking… or speak up without replaying it for hours afterwards.
And when we slow it down, there’s usually something underneath those moments. Not loud or explosive anger, but something quieter. A reaction that didn’t feel right.
Something that mattered that didn’t get said. A feeling that got pushed down or softened.
So this isn’t about having an “anger problem.” It’s about understanding what your reactions are trying to show you, so you can respond in a way that actually feels like you.
It’s not a quick fix, but it is a noticeable shift.
People often say they feel more peaceful in themselves. They stop second-guessing everything after they speak. They find it easier to say what they mean in the moment, without overexplaining or backing out halfway through.
It’s not about becoming a different person. It’s more like becoming more you… just without the noise, the pressure, or the internal conflict getting in the way.
It’s less about fixing you, and more about helping you understand yourself properly.
I’m not here to give you advice or tell you what to do. And it’s not about managing or controlling your emotions either.
What we do is slow things down and look at what’s really going on underneath your reactions—what matters to you, what feels off, what you might be holding back.
From there, things start to shift naturally. You don’t have to force confidence or rehearse conversations. You start to feel clearer, and that clarity changes how you speak and respond.
I tend to work best with people who are already thoughtful, self-aware, and open to looking at themselves honestly.
You don’t need to have everything figured out, but you do need to be willing to slow things down and explore what’s really going on underneath your reactions.
I’m quite a direct coach, and I will share some of my own experiences where it helps. I don’t sit behind a wall or keep things overly clinical. For this work to be meaningful, there needs to be a real human connection.
And that matters, because coaching (and therapy) works best when both people feel like it 'clicks'.
A lot of the people I work with are used to holding things together on the outside, while overthinking or second-guessing themselves on the inside.
If that sounds like you, we’ll probably work well together.
If you’re looking for quick answers, step-by-step advice, or someone to tell you exactly what to say… I’m probably not the right person.
But if you want to understand yourself more deeply, and feel clearer and more confident in how you show up, then this could be a really good fit.
You don’t need to have everything figured out before reaching out.
Sometimes clarity begins by finally having space to hear yourself properly.
Tanya Heasley is the creator of Anger-Informed Coaching (AIC), a reflective coaching approach that helps people understand and work with anger constructively through emotional awareness, assertive communication, and positive anger. Tanya is autistic and ADHD and has recently completed a PhD exploring anger within educational settings.
