Conflict Resolution and Anger Management

Break The People-Pleasing Habit

Learn how to say no with confidence, and speak with calm, courageous authority.

Without guilt, anxiety, or over-explaining

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You’re not broken — you learned to stay safe by staying agreeable

Maybe you keep the peace at your own expense.
Maybe you say yes when your body is saying no.
Maybe you explain, soften, or overthink — then feel resentful afterwards.

You’re kind, capable, and emotionally aware…
yet when pressure rises, your voice disappears and guilt takes over.

This isn’t a lack of confidence.

It’s a learned survival habit — and it can be unlearned.

This is an invitation to stop surviving emotionally — and start speaking from self-trust.

Move from reaction to reflection.

From pressure to peace.

From silence to self-leadership.

Using a clear, reflective process, you’ll learn how to:

recognise when people-pleasing is running the show
pause before you explain, justify, or override yourself
listen to anger as a signal for boundaries — not something to suppress
speak clearly and cleanly, without guilt or fear
build self-trust and emotional authority in everyday moments

This work helps you pause, listen, and respond with self-trust — instead of guilt or automatic people-pleasing.

Start small

Begin with reflection

Download your free guide:
How to Break the People-Pleasing Habit

Learn how to say no with confidence and courageous authority — even when guilt, anxiety, or overwhelm show up.

This gentle, practical guide helps you understand why people-pleasing became your default, and how to begin reclaiming your voice without forcing, fixing, or hardening yourself.

Inside, you'll learn how to:

pause before you automatically agree, explain, or justify
recognise when guilt is driving your decisions — and when it’s lying
listen to anger as a signal for boundaries, not something to suppress
speak in clear, calm sentences without over-explaining
build self-trust through small acts of everyday courage

Rooted in my lived experience, doctoral research, and over 20 years of teaching and coaching through Anger-Informed Coaching®.

👉 The free guide is available at the top of this page.

Download it when you’re ready.

Meet Tanya

Hi there! I’m Tanya Heasley, author of A Letter to My Anger and the creator of Anger-Informed Coaching® (AIC) — a framework that transforms anger from something feared into something deeply beneficial.

For over 20 years, I’ve helped people turn reactivity into reflection, conflict into connection, and stress into self-leadership.

As an autistic entrepreneur, coach, and researcher, I understand what it’s like to feel misunderstood, silenced, or “too much.” My work combines lived experience with evidence-based coaching to help you turn emotional struggle into strength.

It’s not about fixing yourself.
It’s about finding yourself — again.

Because anger, when understood, becomes a force for clarity, courage, and connection.

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How You Can Work With Me

Free Confidence & Direction Call

Feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure how to express what you really need? This free clarity call gives you space to pause, gain emotional clarity, and experience what it’s like to be coached by me — with no pressure, just grounded insight.

Book Your Free Confidence Call

The Reset & Clarity Session (45 mins)

Whether you’re a returning client or new to my work, this 45-minute session offers a grounded space for clarity without the commitment of a package. It’s a single, intentional coaching conversation designed to help you reset, refocus, and move forward with confidence.

Book Your Reset & Clarity Session

Confidence, Boundaries & Self-Trust — 6 Sessions

This 6-session coaching journey supports you to strengthen your confidence, trust your decisions, and communicate with greater clarity and calm. Whether you’re navigating career questions or personal change, the focus is on grounded thinking, clear boundaries, and confident action.

Begin Your Confidence & Self-Trust Journey

How to Book

1. Choose your package
Select the coaching package or introductory session that best fits where you are right now.

2. Pick a date and time
Browse the available options and choose what works for you.

3. Confirm your booking
Secure your spot and look forward to beginning your transformative journey.

4. Flexible scheduling
Once you’ve booked, I’ll be in touch to confirm and finalise the date and time that works best for both of us.

Trusted by educators, leaders, and professionals who want to live and lead confidently.

Over 2,000 coaching sessions delivered.
Featured in TEDx • Brainz Magazine • Happiness Habits Transformation Podcast • Refreshing Leadership Podcast • Thriving Carer Podcast • Galaxy Radio Namibia • University of Suffolk • Small Business Britain

'What a pleasure it has been. The strides taken over the last six months with Tanya's coaching has been thoughtful and impactful. She has helped me understand that resilience comes from emotional intelligence and authenticity. I feel stronger as a leader and feel I can overcome stressors.'

Tuncay Pervaz

Senior Director Business Process Improvement and Change at Warner Bros. Discovery

'Tanya has been a brilliant coach over the last 12 months and has helped me achieve key fundamental changes 1) Managing my energy levels to achieve high performance 2) managing my stress response to preparing for high stakes presentations 3) re-connecting with my why to get back my motivation and hunger to succeed.'

Barry McMahon

Senior Sales Manager at Salesforce

'I have really gained a lot from this experience it has made me realise my strengths and how to help myself with my weaknesses. I have tools to assist in areas I struggled and am feeling much more positive. Thank you to Tanya who has been amazing.'

Vicky Dow

Channel Development Manager at NetApp

'Tanya always offers up her observations in a way that makes me think about what language I use and how I can reinforce or weaken how I see something by what I say.'

James Howitt

Gas Plant Superintendent at Chevron

'Loved the discussions. Enjoyed it - I didn't know what to expect. More engaging than 'normal' training'.

Rachel Jacobs

Assistant Headteacher, Neatherd High School

'Another fantastic session with Tayna after a difficult week of self reflection. Her guidance has been superb in helping me understand myself more and how to see the real me.'

Jeff Power

Director of Maintenance & Support at Lumine Group

'Coach Tanya is amazing. Insightful kind and direct she has been a huge help in my development and overcoming negative thought patterns and creating new healthier habits. I truly enjoyed all our sessions learned something new every time and appreciate all she has helped me to learn and see about myself. Thank you!

Susan Riffle

Corporate Communications Manager at RPM International Inc.

'I think Tanya is a very kind person that always listens and I know whatever I say I can always trust her with. I think anger management coaching has helped me because I was able to let things off my chest overall making me feel better mentally and physically.'

School Student

'Learning to recognise anger and the different types. Also, Teachers don't know everything and are always keen to hear from others like our 'Guru', Tanya.'

Sandra Manning

Assitant Headteacher, Neatherd High School

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Known for her honest, no-nonsense approach, Tanya helps people see anger not as a problem, but as a path to clarity, courage, and deeper connection — creating space for real growth and flourishing.